6 Explosive Adult Toys for Beginners

If you have never known the joy of plastic, silicone, injection moulding, and what happens when you combine it all with a little whirring motor… you’re in for a treat! For those who have never experienced adult toys, it can be a strange and unusual world. Start small – here we look at some of the best toys for beginners.
 
Lubes and lotions

If you’ve never used a sex toy, it’s also highly possible you’ve never experienced the joy of lubricant… which makes everything that you’ve done dozens of times before magically feel heaps better! Go for cheap and easily available water-based lube, long-lasting silicone, or exotic warming and cooling lotions. Just make sure you use ‘protection’ for your

Lingerie

You know where your most powerful sexual organ is located… between your ears. And no, it isn’t your nose! Lingerie can help you see yourself, or your partner, in a different light, and is a gentle introduction to toys.

Cyberskin Toys

If you’re new to the idea of using things other than human bits in your playtime, Cyberskin is a fantastic way to start. It has an ultra-realistic feel, and isn’t necessarily as intimidating as glittery purple plastic!

Egg and Bullet Vibrators

These tiny little gems of joy are discreet and easy to use. Because egg and bullet toys are so small, they fit right in with whatever you’d usually do – just adding a little buzz to the experience. Most have varying speed levels built in… and if you’re into the ‘shared secret’ experience, you can also get remote control vibrating knickers or insertable eggs, which your partner can turn on and off at will while you’re out in public.

Cock rings

For guys that haven’t had much experience with sex toys, cock rings can be a great place to start. Choose a cock-only ring to start with, as opposed to a cock-and-balls ring. Cock rings will help you last a little longer and get more pumped up.

Dildo Vibrators

These toys combine the best of both worlds, both standard and vibrating stimulation. If you want to buy your first toy to last, choose a vibrating dildo!

Vibrators and How to Clean Them

Vibrators provide an enormous amount of pleasure for many people. A common problem that is often overlooked when buying a vibrator, especially expensive ones, is how well they are looked after when the fun is over.

As there are many vibrators to choose from, there may be different ways in which they need to be cared for. However, they generally need to be looked after properly – to keep them in good condition so that they work seamlessly for you and do not run the risk of building up unwanted bacteria which can be harmful to your sensitive areas.

First you need to clean the outside of your vibrators, immediately after use. The amount of bacteria that can be left on them could be damaging to you, so the best thing is to get a simple cloth (like a wash cloth) which should be clean and never used before and dampen it with warm water and a chemical free soap or something similar. The reason I say chemical free is because many people are sensitive to soap on the genital area which can leave traces on your vibrators causing irritation to you on the next use. Scrub off any visible residue, ensuring you clean all the little creases and crevices of your toy.

If you only have a regular soap which may contain certain chemicals and don’t want to run out and buy specific soap just for your vibrators, then just make sure you remove all the soap residue with warm water and your cloth so that there are no traces left. This is a good tip, because soap is one of the main causes of yeast infections when used in the vaginal region.

If you are really good and like to be very hygienic, then invest in a vibrator cleaning fluid which is designed specifically for vibrators use. You can get these anywhere online and usually from the same place you bought the vibrators in the first place. They do not cost much and are a great way of disinfecting your toys on a regular basis. They are used to clean the inside of your vibrators so if your vibrator is waterproof then you wont have as big a problem. If it is not waterproof then use the cleaning fluid on the the inside and outside for total cleanliness.

Buy a disinfectant for your vibrators, again from adult toy stores and soak your toy in for a little while. After you have left for a couple of minutes rinse thoroughly and then dry with a towel or clean dry wash cloth.

Lastly, after making sure your toy is clean and ready to be put away, store your vibrators somewhere cool and dark, like a drawer or wardrobe, or even under the bed (not if you have pets that like to rummage!) To keep them cool and in great working order. You pay good money for your vibrators and experience wonderful pleasure from them, so to look after them properly is a worthy action on your part to keep them buzzing happily for a long time to come!

Online Dating – Have Fun And Avoid The Lurking Dangers

Web Dating Fun

Meeting people on the internet should be enjoyable and fun. You should be able to meet lots of people, spend a little time getting to know each one, narrow them down to the few or the one you think you would like to at least be friends with, and then get to know him, her or them better. Finally you should arrive at a comfortable point where it is time to move to the next stage, personal contact.

The people you wish to eliminate early should recognize that it is not personal, it is not animosity, it is not rudeness. It is simply a matter of having too many options to follow up on every person in detail, and therefore having to exercise your discretion based on limited information together with gut instinct and/or intuition. You can’t spend too much time on every person you encounter so you have to devote the time you do have to those who spark some real interest in you. The people you must quickly reject, assuming you do so in a polite and fair manner, should recognize that it simply wasn’t their moment in time formeeting you.

And if you want to keep it enjoyable and fun, when you are the one being rejected you must recognize the same thing – it wasn’t your moment in time for meeting the person rejecting you. In the simplest terms, keep an open mind and remember that on the internet the options are so endless that the next great potential friend or partner is just around the cyber corner.

But there are other things to keep always in mind in order to enjoy your web dating experience instead of allowing it to become a disaster.

Web Dating Safety

As we have said, web dating can be, and probably 99% of the time is, a lot of fun. The following information is not designed to scare you away from web dating or any other use of the internet. Rather it is intended to help ensure that you never have to fall into that 1% of people who do not end up having a good experience dating on the internet.

There are three general categories of individuals (villains) you can encounter on the web who represent a danger or threat to your web safety, and to some extent to your psychological and even physical well being. These people are the basic scum of the earth and require your ongoing vigilance. We have divided them into three categories based not on the type of activity they engage in, which is similarly fraudulent activity based upon lies and deceit, but is rather divided according to the degree of harm they may be prepared or intending to inflict upon you. They are, from the most harmful to least harmful, the following:

1. Predators

These people are truly one in a million, and there is scant evidence that any of the serious predator crimes discussed under this heading have ever taken place in connection with a web dating site. But there is legitimate concern that it may happen someday. It is of course a major concern with similarly styled predators (pedophiles) preying on children on the internet. So don’t panic please, as owners of an International Online Dating Site, we just feel it our duty to advise you of any risks to be on the lookout for.

Predators have no conscience and are prepared, indeed planning, to do you grievous harm. They include men who have intentions of sexual assaults on unsuspecting women, and individuals, couples or groups who may wish to lure you, be you male or female, halfway around the world in order rob you, kidnap you, enslave you or worse. Of course they are a few individuals out of millions, and your chances of encountering one of them are extremely low, perhaps lower than being struck by lightning, but if you do you should know the signs to look for and the precautions to take.

Of course their plans are detailed and well thought out, so they will always have a good story to tell. Watch out for too good a story. They have an agenda, so watch out for someone who doesn’t want to adapt to your needs. They need to be in control and want to get you on their turf, so don’t let them set all the guidelines as to where your first meeting will take place, or when. If you aren’t easily controlled you make a difficult victim – it becomes easier to just pass on you and look for someone who does what they’re told. However, we are not experts on this subject. If you wish to know more one place you might start is a book called “Web Stalkers – Protect Yourself from Internet Criminals and Psychopaths”, written by Donald Andert & Donald K. Burleson.

2. Scammers

Scammers are individuals who do not have intentions of inflicting any physical damage upon you; they just want your money. Unfortunately these people abound on web dating sites. Quality Online Dating Sites are taking as many steps as possible to weed this type of member out. Unfortunately, it isn’t possible to catch them all in advance and we require some evidence that a member is scamming before we can refuse them or terminate their memberships. Websites that charge for services are going to be far more diligent about guarding against Scammers, and in fact the so called “Free” sites have some reason to welcome Scammers as they are the ones that really are best at appealing to many members and keeping the site busy. If you find someone clearly trying to scam you, report their activities to the website. If you aren’t satisfied with their response condsider moving on to another site. A Quality Site will also notify all members when a Scammer has been discovered to ensure that no one else is caught in their web.

Scammers are almost invariably (probably 95% of the time) registered on a dating site as a female member. That doesn’t mean they are female, frequently the person behind the female profile is a man, and just as frequently a couple, one man and one woman. The scammer will develop your interest in her, and then start to need your assistance, financial assistance specifically. At first, usually the amount she needs seems so small to you that you can’t believe it is a scam. In your mind it just isn’t enough to bother with. Maybe she developed a computer problem, and if she can’t get it fixed how can she continue to communicate with you? Maybe her Mom is ill and needs some medicine. She hates to place her problems in your lap, but she feels so close to you already, and she has nowhere else to turn. Of course you’ll send her the $50 needed to solve this problem. You love that she would ask you to help.

The tricky part is that it could easily be true, maybe her computer really did break down, maybe her Mom really is sick. You can’t be sure and to turn her down may just cost you the most wonderful chance at happiness you’ve had in years. It could all be true, and the scammer knows that, that’s why her/his story is so good. But it may not be true, and there may be 19 other guys falling for the same story at the same time. Suddenly that $50 is actually $1,000 and that’s a nice monthly income in China, and a small fortune in a place like Russia, Vietnam and most other third world countries.

And it could just be stage one of a plan to eventually invade your bank account or turn you into a monthly supporter. We have heard from good sources of female members on some Russian sites who have 4 or more “fianc├ęs”, each of whom is supporting her with a good monthly income.

Other scams involve simply getting you to provide your email address, which batched in with hundreds of others is a saleable commodity. Or to have you click on a link that will ultimately allow her/him full access to your computer, your identity, your personal information and ultimately, your bank account.

Watch out for a member who too quickly wants you to go directly to personal email contact. If in that first or second message you are already being asked to email her address from your own, ask yourself why? You can continue to message her from your Web Dating site for a long time at no additional cost. One of your greatest protections is just to stay on the dating site for communications until you are confident she is for real. The scammer desperately wants off site as quickly as possible, to avoid being caught and to get more personal. Usually a scammer will tire after maintaining contact on the site for even a few messages, because she/he wants easier targets to deal with. She/he will drop you and move on to easier fish to catch.

Of course watch out for someone who too quickly asks for money. In the case of our website, which focuses on Chinese women and International Men, we can confidently say that genuine and sincere Chinese ladies do not wish to lose face with you, and to ask a stranger for money is a loss of face. She will do almost anything to find other sources of money, friends or family, a second job, even selling something she owns, before she will lose face with you if she is genuinely interested in you for the right reasons. And we bet this is true of all women who really are interested in you, not only Chinese women.

3. Game Players

Game Players are website members who are not after your money, but they are after something of value – your pride, your psyche, your sense of well being. They are usually male members, but that statistic is becoming less true all the time. These are people who, for some reason, stroke their own egos by damaging yours. It’s okay to play games if the person on the other side is also playing games, and both sides are aware of it. But it’s quite another thing to deceive someone into trusting you just so you can deflate their pride or even break their heart. But for some reason the game player thinks that a “loss” for you is a “win” for him/her.

The variety of games being played is endless, far too varied for us to provide a list. In the case of male game players, probably the ultimate goal is a consensual sexual conquest. But it might be a final giving in to a request for sexy pictures, or something more innocent, like simply having a number of women’s interest, all wanting him at the same time. For the female game player the goal might be receipt of nice gifts, especially from several men at the same time, or maybe she finds self worth in being told she is loved and admired by as many men as possible. The point is, don’t let your self worth suffer at the hands of these people.

As the dating site it is almost impossible for us to control this behavior. We can’t terminate someone’s membership because another person complains of ill treatment unless that is backed up by solid evidence, and solid evidence is almost impossible to provide. Given undeniably clear evidence of improper behavior we will terminate a member’s status, but it almost always becomes one member’s word against another, and we cannot be the one to judge on that basis. However, we do offer one excellent tool to protect you from another member’s unwanted attention, your Blacklist. On Quality Online Dating sites you are entitled to place any other member you wish on your Blacklist and once on your Blacklist that other member is unable to contact you in any manner.

Watch out for someone who is too quick to express real love (why would someone seriously searching for a life partner jump into “love” overnight), someone who seems preoccupied while chatting with you (maybe he/she is chatting with several members at once), someone who doesn’t remember the things you’ve written in your profile or told him/her in a previous message (maybe he/she is juggling too many dates) or someone who says something in a chat or a message that doesn’t seem to be directed at you, like asking you about Sidney, Australia, when you live in Vancouver, Canada (maybe you’re being confused with someone else on his/her list of conquests).

Most importantly of all, when you find yourself the victim of a game player, remember that it is his/her fragile sense of self worth that brought you there, not your own. He/she is truly the “loser”. Don’t give up on the rest of the members of your favorite site because most of them are truly, sincerely and honestly searching for you. Take care to avoid the Predators, Scammers and Game Players, and Online Dating can be great fun and it can lead to a true and lasting relationship.